Letting My Daughter Go

And bringing her back again

Daniel P. Donovan
2 min readOct 20, 2020
Photo by Gautam Arora on Unsplash

Yesterday, we brought my 3-year-old daughter to a Montessori school for the first time in her life.

She’s never been in ‘school’ before.

Heck, she’s never even been in daycare before.

But with my schedule filling up and my wife studying, too, I needed to create some extra time to take on more projects.

Or so I thought…

Here’s the thing:

Ever since my daughter was born, it’s only been my wife and I taking care of her. No babysitters, no family, no daycare, nada.

If I’m working, my wife’s in charge. If she’s working, I am.

It’s a pretty simple and seamless system. One that’s allowed us to be more present and available than any other parents I know.

And that’s always been the goal with us:

To be present for our daughter, no matter what.

That’s why, after picking her up from school yesterday, I decided to never bring her back.

The truth is…

My daughter doesn’t need someone else to watch her.

If I want to take on more projects, I can find time elsewhere. I can wake up earlier in the mornings. I can stay up later in the evenings. I can find a way to create more time without having to let my daughter go.

My wife and I have spent 3 incredible years being present for every moment of our daughter’s life. That’s what’s important. Not more money, not more work, not more anything.

I don’t want to look back at my life and know I could’ve spent more time with my daughter, but chose not to. I want to look back at my life and know I savored every precious little moment I had with her.

I hope, for your own family’s sake, you’re able to look back and know you made that decision, too.

Kids grow up way too fast as it is.

Why make it go any faster?

Halt right there!

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