Things You CAN’T Control Right Now [Part III]

Let’s wrap this up, shall we?

Daniel P. Donovan
3 min readMar 29, 2020
Photo by Adrian Swancar on Unsplash

Buckle in and get ready for Things You Can’t Control [Part III].

This is the last installment in the series.

The actions of others

If someone wants to do something you don’t agree with…

… who the eff cares?

Unless there’s something you can do to make them stop, you’re needlessly getting yourself worked up over something you can’t control.

It’s not your responsibility to change what other people do.

And the more you sit around saying to yourself “Don’t they know they shouldn’t be doing that?!”, the more you dig yourself into a hole agitation and annoyance.

Sure, some people are going to get under your skin — there’s no avoiding that. But, at the end of the day, those people are still going to do whatever the heck they want— regardless of how you feel.

So here’s what you’re gonna do…

If someone is doing something you don’t agree with, you’re going to ask yourself this question:

Is there anything I can about this to make them stop?

If the answer is ‘yes’ — do it, and do it right away.

If the answer is ‘no’ — then let it the eff go.

Got it?

Predicting what will happen

Man, oh man…

You can get lost in many a rabbit hole right now, can’t you?

It’s human nature to wonder what’s going to happen next — and it’s also human nature to search for answers and make predictions.

That’s what we do.

We plot. We calculate. We anticipate where things are headed.

And though defining characteristics of the human race, these are also activities that — in times like this — can add more stress, anxiety, and discomfort to our lives than we care to admit.

Why?

Because, for the average Joe and Janette, if predictions don’t meet up with reality, it can be a one-way ticket to a first-class let-down — manifesting in more dread, uncertainty, and fear than they were experiencing before.

Sure, you can wonder where all of this is headed.

I mean, you’d be crazy to not think about how everything will end.

But you can’t control the outcome here — and no prediction you make is going to change how everything unfolds.

So…

Unless you can honestly tell yourself you won’t be let down if your predictions don’t go your way… it’s probably best to not make any predictions at all.

Go with the flow.

Be in the here and now.

Look for comfort in isolation.

And surrender to the uncertainty.

We have no idea how everything will turn out…

… but WE ARE experiencing it all together

And WE WILL get through it.

Of that, I’m certain.

And that wraps up the Things You Can’t Control [Part III].

Let’s move on and talk about some things you CAN control, shall we?

That’s where we’ll start first thing tomorrow.

Halt right there!

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