What to do when you’re feeling down and defeated

Daniel P. Donovan
3 min readJan 8, 2020

When was the last time you felt down and defeated?

… like nothing at all was going your way?

… like no matter what you did, everything around you kept falling apart?

Maybe you lost your job.

Maybe you didn’t have enough money last month to pay your heating bill.

Maybe some spectacular A-hole smashed into your Camry and fled the scene, leaving you burdened with the cost of repairing something you’re in absolutely no position to repair.

I feel your pain.

Life can straight up be a real sonuvabitch sometimes.

And from personal experience…

When it rains, it pours.

But guess what?

That doesn’t mean everything has to be so gloomy. You don’t have to be an Eeyore about it.

Because whether you’re aware of it or not…

You get to choose how you respond.

That’s the secret.

THAT’S the silver lining.

That’s the truth that’ll set you free.

No matter what happens in your life — the hardships you face… the ‘bad luck’ you get served… the life-altering problems that appear out of nowhere — the one thing you can be sure to control is your attitude towards it all.

Look at your situation for what it is.

A temporary defeat.

A TEMPORARY setback.

What’s happened has already happened — and no amount of groaning, moaning or complaining is going to make it any better.

It never has, and it never will.

So take a deep breath and let the tension go.

Relax your shoulders.

Relax your forehead.

Relax your jaw.

Now tell yourself it’s going to be okay.

Tell yourself you’re going to get through this.

Tell yourself you’ve got the strength to overcome anything life can throw your way.

Because guess what?

You can.

You ARE that strong.

And it’s about damn time you start believing it.

In this life, your attitude is absolutely everything. It’s the single-most important determinant of how you’ll feel throughout the day.

Have a bad attitude? Expect a bad day.

Have a good attitude? Expect a good day.

Have a great attitude? You got it — expect a GREAT day.

It never fails.

Best part?

You get to choose your own attitude every step of the way.

So the next time you’re feeling down and defeated… like everything is falling apart and the world is literally crumbling beneath you…

Remember this:

No amount of worry has ever solved anyone’s problems.

No amount of rumination has ever changed anyone’s situation.

Shift your attitude and start looking for solutions.

This defeat of yours is only temporary — and it will get better.

But it’s up to you see the light.

And it’s up to you to choose the day.

Halt right there!

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